One day after finishing the work Rachael was unwinding by checking her personal mails. Suddenly she saw a mail from an unknown
person and he wrote in his signature “I am a fan”. Well she had a fan following
of her blogs but she never thought that one day she will get such nice and
heart touching mail. That was an Invite to become the speaker and the topic was
“ Women - The change agents”. Well usually she doesn't like being a speaker because of
public glare but this time the invitation was from “A fan” so she could not say
no. She knows that being someones favorite is a“great responsibility” as she
herself was fan of many people. And when people look up to you, it's your
responsibility not to hurt the feelings. Well Rachael accepted the invitation
and started preparing for the Seminar.
On the seminar day, there were four other speakers along
with her and all of them were from different background. It was a privilege to
share the stage with such talented successful women. She was happy that she
will get to learn new things from such distinguished guests who were not only
senior to her in age but in experience as well. She was the first one to speak
and was a little nervous as that was her first seminar as a speaker. Well she
fumbled initially but then she became more confident and was unstoppable. She
spoke on the topic based on her experience of being woman…. Simple things of
life and how simple things in life (if not taken care properly) can become
bigger issue later.
Now was the time for another speaker to take the stage. When
the seminar ended she was surprised to hear the opinion of other speakers. One
of them said “I am surprised how a woman can take care of kids as well as
office. I can never imagine myself taking care of my work and family together.
I somewhere feel that such women compromise on work and don’t give their 100%. The
kind of profile I am in I can never imagine to start family that’s the reason I
never got married”. Another one said “Don’t get upset when your boss comment on
your lips and say that “ Your lipstick is awesome””….. Well Well !
Let's take the point one by one. The primary role of women in
the society/family is to take care of the family. If that’s not true then Why only
women have the capacity to undergo the
process of meiosis because Its women role to have kids and take care of them
and define the future of the society and country. I am not saying that Women
should not work . They should but Family should always be a priority for women.
Men and women have defined roles by GOD and it should be followed in that order
only. If we try to change things completely it can lead to devastation.
Rakhsita being woman always believed that Women role has to
be performed by women and no men can match the role of women . In the similar way Men role
should be performed by Men only, No Women can match that. Rachaels mother and father had defined “role” in
shaping her as an individual hence she believed in that logic. People will
label Rachael as Orthodox but according to me She is a modern woman and trying
to do her duties of life and I am sure one day she will be a successful mother,
wife as well as professional. We have
many examples from the corporate world where the woman is
successful mother as well as professional. It's not difficult and can be
easily achieved with the help of family members ,colleagues & mentors. That’s
the reason it's very important to marry the right person/Choose the right organisation….A person/organisation who can
understand you, help you grow as an individual. Climbing the corporate ladder,
or juggling between the companies or straightway starting of your own …
Whatever way one has chosen, it doesn’t matter… what matters is the success of
each role play. Women have to plan their house chores as well as
office chores in a more professional way and nothing seems impossible.
Planning is the core of everything whether its personal or professional life.
Coming to the second statement of speaker “Don’t get upset
when your boss comment on your lips and say that “ Your lipstick is awesome”….
It is a concern and matter to get upset. It depends on the individual. Some
women like such compliments, some don’t... so men should be very careful before making
such statement. Men should better avoid making such loose statement. Everyone
appreciates beauty but when this appreciation becomes habit for men and is shown to every second women then its a matter of concern as the next step will be to visualize women in "Ooh la la" way…. Infatuation at any age is bad
but if its limited to healthy flirting then it's absolutely fine. Now the issue is if you don’t appreciate such
statement you will be termed as “ Arrogant”. Don’t bother what people say, DO
what you feel is right and appreciate the behavior if you find it ok. If not
then ask the person ( whatever position the person holds) in a polite manner to
“ SHUT UP”
Someone rightly said “ Women's role is to unite the house”…..
Women are known as “Female”… The word itself has “Iron” in it which means that
women are strong, intelligent and ready to take the world. Reach the top but don’t forget the primary
responsibility of “Being Woman” !
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